So often we get judged by others who put upon us their own issues or prejudice. This project was designed to expose some of our deepest fears or insecurities as a society. In exposing them by the way of some of the most beautiful portrait photography, Steve Rosenfield captures those moments of doubt or assumptions that society lays on people. is work can be seen here http://www.whatibeproject.com/portfolio-types/ability/ The most throught provoking pictures we have seen at Kent Therapy for a long while. Be sure to read the blurb about the photographer too, here: http://www.whatibeproject.com/pages/project-info/ Author Emma Evans can also be found on: on: Google+ TWO WOLVES One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all. "One is Evil - It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. "The other is God - It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith." The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: "Which wolf wins?" The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed." Author Emma Evans can also be found on: on: Google+ I talk a lot to my clients here at Kent Therapy Clinic about the virtues of being mindful. Mindfulness is an easy technique to learn, but one which is incredibly powerful! Can you remember the last time you actually took time out for yourself just to be present in the moment? I remember once, while going through a bad time, I drove to the beach. I got out of the car and I sat on a wall and spent an hour looking out to the sea. It helped me to think. No noise, no distractions, just being alone with time to think is incredibly powerful. It made me feel very small in this huge and very beautiful world. It was quite awe inspiring looking out to that mass of water and hearing the noise of the waves crashing on the shore. For that few moments, nothing mattered and all of my problems seemed so far away. The other thing was, it helped me to come back afresh with a clearer perspective. I could come to my problem with a fresh sense of proportion. I also began to recognise the reasons why I felt stressed and the ways in which I could sort that out. So the next time you feel stressed, don't make excuses as to why you can't get away; even if you only go into a garden, or take a walk down your street, find somewhere to just be alone and look around you and notice some of the things that get lost in the noise of life. The sound of the wind or the birds in the trees, the colour of the house that you've never noticed or the way the grass looks as the sun glints off of it. Be mindful. If you'd like to learn how to become more mindful yourself, and fancy a session or two of hypnosis, then look me up :) www.kenttherapyclinic.co.uk Becoming a hypnotherapist is such a rewarding thing to do! Fancy training for a new fascinating skill, perhaps even turning that skill into a new career for yourself? One that can help change peoples lives for the better? One where people will believe that you are a mind reader with special powers? Then you may like to train as a clinical hypnotherapist. A rewarding and exciting career where you never stop learning, long after you have gained a professional qualification! Clinical hypnotherapy is different from stage hypnosis. The likes of Derren Brown and Paul McKenna are fabulous show men and fantastic hypnotists, but not many people realise that hypnotherapists can help with so many different issues! From helping people to quit smoking and overcoming fears and phobias, to relieving symptoms of panic and anxiety or improving IBS and pain management. Hypnotherapy really does deal with a multitude of ailments and psychological illnesses. If you would like to find out more about gaining a professional diploma qualification with one of Kents leading hypnosis schools then please take a look at this site. www.kentinstituteofclinicalhypnosis.co.uk I've been pondering the effects of stress on people for a long while. Right throughout my line of work I see more stressed people than you could shake a stick at! Stress is a funny old thing really. We actually need some kinds of stress. Really! We do! You need some stress to get up in the morning, it is critical to feeling motivated and interested in getting on with your life. Like bad stress, good stress, called eustress, also gets the heart pumping, increases your breathing rate, makes you perspire more and causes chemicals reactions through-out your system. The big difference is in the type of chemicals you produce when you are excited and happy - verses being excited and apprehensive or unhappy. When we are in a “good” stress situation, you get a kind of “runners high” type of chemical cocktail. Lovely chemicals like endorphin, serotonin and dopamine are produced by our bodies and do all sorts of good things for our systems. They act almost like antidotes to the bad stress chemicals. Stress management can teach you how to change from the bad to the good type. Ok so, what other kinds of stress are there? Acute stress is the most common form of stress. It comes from demands and pressures of the recent past and anticipated demands and pressures of the near future. Acute stress is thrilling and exciting in small doses, but too much is exhausting. A fast run down a challenging ski slope, for example, is exhilarating early in the day. That same ski run late in the day is taxing and wearing. Skiing beyond your limits can lead to falls and broken bones. By the same token, overdoing on short-term stress can lead to psychological distress, tension headaches, upset stomach, and other symptoms. Fortunately, acute stress symptoms are recognised by most people. It's an accumulated list of what has gone awry in their lives: the car accident, the loss of an important contract, a deadline they're rushing to meet, their child's occasional problems at school, and so on. Because it is short term, acute stress doesn't have enough time to do the extensive damage associated with long-term stress. Episodic Acute Stress. There are those, however, who suffer acute stress frequently, whose lives are so disordered that they are studies in chaos and crisis. They're always in a rush, but always late. If something can go wrong, it does. They take on too much, have too many irons in the fire, and can't organize the slew of self-inflicted demands and pressures clamoring for their attention. They seem perpetually in the clutches of acute stress. It is common for people with acute stress reactions to be over aroused, short-tempered, irritable, anxious, and tense. Often, they describe themselves as having "a lot of nervous energy." Always in a hurry, they tend to be abrupt, and sometimes their irritability comes across as hostility. Interpersonal relationships deteriorate rapidly when others respond with real hostility. The work becomes a very stressful place for them. Chronic stress comes when a person never sees a way out of a miserable situation. It's the stress of unrelenting demands and pressures for seemingly interminable periods of time. With no hope, the individual gives up searching for solutions. Some chronic stresses stem from traumatic, early childhood experiences that become internalised and remain forever painful and present. Some experiences profoundly affect personality. A view of the world, or a belief system, is created that causes unending stress for the individual (e.g., the world is a threatening place, people will find out you are a pretender, you must be perfect at all times). When personality or deep-seated convictions and beliefs must be reformulated, recovery requires active self-examination, often with professional help. The worst aspect of chronic stress is that people get used to it. They forget it's there. People are immediately aware of acute stress because it is new; they ignore chronic stress because it is old, familiar, and sometimes, almost comfortable. Chronic stress kills through suicide, violence, heart attack, stroke, and, perhaps, even cancer. People wear down to a final, fatal breakdown. Because physical and mental resources are depleted through long-term attrition, the symptoms of chronic stress are difficult to treat and may require extended medical as well as behavioral treatment and stress management. So, if you know you’re suffering from stress, why not book an appointment to see me! Together with a range of guided techniques, we can devise strategies which not only reduce your stress levels, but teach you how to create the positive stress in your life – the healthy stress that we all need! Have a look at my website for contact info! www.kenttherapyclinic.co.uk Here at Kent Therapy Clinic www.kenttherapyclinic.co.uk we don't deal with a lot of past life regression. It's not something that people ask for a lot.
I get calls all the time about stress, anxiety, insomnia and fears and phobias. But past life regression is quite a fascinating subject. That got me thinking, there is a really good book I read a while ago called Warriors Settlers and Nomads - it's been written by a hypnotherapist called Terrence Watts who is not only experienced and has global acclaim, but is also an entertaining writer! You can find the book here: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Warriors-Settlers-Nomads-Discovering-What/dp/1899836489 It's basically a personality typology book - so it talks about peoples different personalities and how we all developed from cave men - some went on to be Warriors, some Settlers and some Nomads. The book enables you to not only find out what personality type you are, but also, you find out a lot more about other people around you too like your loved ones and work colleagues! It goes into detail about each of the three personality types and how you fit into the world etc and a bit about the ancestral memory that we all have of the type we once were many generations ago. If you're interested in finding out more about yourself or other people, then buy the book, it is well worth reading :) "Many people develop self-defeating behaviors within their personal and working lives or their relationships with others. If you have a self-defeating behavior, you are not alone! Read more about self defeating behaviors here on my article on the natural therapy for all website: http://blog.naturaltherapyforall.com/2012/07/20/self-defeating-behaviour-is-it-ruining-your-life/
So you're bored trying to lose weight - perhaps a little humiliated at the thought of those weight loss clubs where everyone is watching as you step on the scale? Maybe, you haven't got the time to come to see someone like me for regular weight loss hypnosis. Whatever the case, help is at hand. Through years of treating people face to face for weight loss in her popular and busy practice here in Kent, Emma realised that there was a need for an online hypnosis weight loss program. Combining sensible advice and help, with monthly MP3's she launched her slim via hypnosis program and it has been a real success! People from all over the UK and worldwide can now benefit from the slim via hypnosis program by purchasing the package on line. Why not take a closer look? http://www.kenttherapyclinic.co.uk/weight-loss-therapy.html I was chatting to a client recently and I wanted to explain therapy in an analogy, clear and concise and really connective. Something she could remember and take away and think about and then apply it to her life. Hypnotherapy is all about getting people to change their perception of something, and the best way of doing this is to put something visually in their mind. Give them a visualisation that can then go and work on a number of levels. I thought I'd share with you what my analogy was. It happened to be a very significant and powerful one as it turned out. Therapy is like a roller-coaster. When you strap yourself in to the seat, part of you really wants the ride, to see what its like and to experience it. The other part is fighting telling you to not be so stupid and get the hell off! Then as the car you're in starts its climb, you feel that increase of adrenalin, further and further you climb further and further the feelings of anticipation and even discomfort arise. You don't like it, you might want to get off, but you know that you can't and that can be pretty scary. You reach the top, that part where they always shunt you forward a little till you're in that zone where they are going to drop you off into the unknown....and every part of you is on edge. Your heart beats faster, you might want to cry...you hold your breath, resisting the inevitable. Then, for just a split second, as you go over the top, you are weightless....suspended in air, absolutely free, it's breathtaking, nothing holding you down...It's like there has been a huge release of all of that negative energy. Then in an instant you're dashing back down to the bottom and you're back on the even track, maybe feeling slightly out of control, but you know you are safe. You're not sure exactly what to expect next, but it feels different because you know you have choices. It is in this time, the time when the car is slowing down, that you make decisions about where you'd like to go next. Do you stay on board going round and round? or do you get off as it comes to a stop, go back out into the theme park and take stock of what else is out there? See what other rides you can get on. Ultimately you get left with choices. but this time, they are choices you are in control of. So when you chose to go on the next ride, the fear is much less and the enjoyment is much more! Therapy is very much like that. But if you never get on the ride in the first place, you're never going to find out just what else is out there for you to enjoy. 1) Make peace with your present, so it won't affect your future. 2) What others think of you is none of your business. 3) Time heals almost everything, give time the time to heal. 4) Don't compare your life with others, you are not living their life; you have no idea what their life is truly like. 5) No one is the creator of your happiness, you are responsible for your own happiness. 6) Stop thinking so much, it's ok not to know all of the answers. 7) Smile, and remember, you don't own all of the problems in the world. www.kenttherapyclinic.co.uk I was scrolling around on the internet the other day and came upon this photo. It got me thinking. So often we chastise our children with unkind words. Maybe a throwaway comment like "you're stupid" or "don't be a moron" seems like it would have limited impact. Seldom is the case. We have a total ban on the words idiot, stupid, moron and useless in my house. If I hear the word pop out of someone's mouth I immediately ask them to clarify why they have said it, and most often, they can't justify the words at all. Usually it transpires that the person yelling the insult is the one feeling out of control and stupid! Every time you hurl one of those words at another person (especially a child) it goes deep within their subconscious mind and stays there, like a marker, flagging up feelings of being an idiot/stupid/a moron etc. Eventually, the subconscious convinces the child that they really ARE those things. Many of you as adults probably remember being called those things at school, by your siblings or by your parents, and a huge number of people have had issues with their self esteem and self belief as they have grown up! It's hardly surprising really is it, when you think about it? So the next time you go to chastise a child (or an adult for that matter) instead of immediately yelling "don't be so stupid!", take a breath and remember, those words that you fling into the air with not a thought for the consequences, may very well be still ringing in that childs ears for years to come. www.kenttherapyclinic.co.uk Here at Kent Therapy Clinic we love a bit of poetry...Poetry can mean so much, whether you love a particular author of poetry and prose, or if you have a favourite song because of its lyrics....we'd love to hear from you telling us which one is your favourite and why! Does anyone remember this beautiful poem, by Enid Blyton...? When the moon was blue, the sea was made of lemonade, and my boat was a raspberry bun. All the trees were golden cheese, which melted in the sun. I went to school in a swimming pool, with a teacher who was a seal. I dressed up in a banana skin, with a hat of orange peal. My house had feet and roamed the street, to a different place each night. It got up and ran past the garbage man, and gave him a terrible fright. All kinds of flowers rained for hours, until the city looked like a fair. People had roses under their noses, and daffodils in their hair. I was allowed to choose some special shoes, which walked on walls and ceilings. I went up like a fly 10 stories high, it was a fantastic feeling. My wooden bed was a rocket ship instead, and it took off one afternoon. On a long flight which lasted the night, and landed me on the moon. When the moon was blue. ~ This was one of my favourite poems as a child. What poetry or song lyrics do you really love...? New Swedish studies demonstrate that hypnotherapy provides lasting relief, even for severe cases. Hypnosis can be a highly effective treatment for the bowel disorder IBS according to new research. The treatment of IBS using hypnotherapy has been studied before but only at highly specialised "hypnotherapy centres", two new Swedish studies evaluated a form of treatment that could be used in ordinary healthcare. 40% of participants showed a reduction in symptoms. IBS ( irritable bowel syndrome) is one of the most common digestive conditions and can cause bouts of stomach cramps, bloating, diarrhoea and constipation. It's thought that 10%-20% of people experience IBS at some point and it's twice as common in women as in men. ControlProfessor Peter Whorwell from the University of Manchester School of Medicine has been studying hypnosis for IBS for around 25 years and told BootsWebMD that the new studies back up his own findings: "These studies confirm accumulating evidence that hypnotherapy is an effective treatment for patients with irritable bowel syndrome and that its effects are sustained in the long term." He says hypnotherapy helps both physiologically and psychologically: "Hypnosis relaxes you and reduces your anxiety but we've done studies over the years showing that hypnotherapy has a direct effect physiologically. There are studies that show it reduces acid secretion. It reduces the hypersensitivity that IBS patients have. It reduces the contractions in the gut." He says hypnosis also helps IBS patients with bowel function, pain and bloating. He calls the therapy gut-focused hypnosis: "The mantra is: you are controlling your gut, rather than your gut controlling you." Swedish studies. The studies, conducted by researchers at the University of Gothenburg, involved a total of 346 patients. They showed that hypnotherapy alleviated symptoms in 40% of those affected and that the improvement was long-term. In one of the studies, published in the American Journal of Gastroenterology, 138 patients with IBS received hypnotherapy treatment for one hour a week over 12 weeks. The study showed that 40% demonstrated a satisfactory reduction in symptoms, compared with 12 per cent in the untreated control group. In a press statement researcher Magnus Simrén from The Sahlgrenska Academy of Gothenburg University said: "The treatment involves the patient learning to control their symptoms through deep relaxation and individually adapted hypnotic suggestions. The idea is for the patient to then use this technique in their everyday life." The positive effect was sustained for the entire year the study ran and led to an improvement in the quality of life experienced by the treatment group. In the second study, which was presented in the Scandinavian Journal of Gastroenterology, 208 patients who had previously received hypnotherapy were examined. The results showed that 85 per cent of those who had been helped by hypnosis still felt the benefits of the treatment up to seven years later and that the majority still actively use the technique in their everyday lives. "In this group, use of the healthcare system as a result of stomach and bowel symptoms had also reduced by 70%," said Magnus Simrén. EffectiveHe believes the studies show that hypnosis belongs in the arsenal of treatments for IBS: "Overall, our studies show that hypnotherapy is an effective method of treating IBS." To book in for a session with Emma Evans please visit www.kenttherapyclinic.co.uk http://www.webmd.boots.com/ibs/news/20120419/ibs-hypnosis-an-effective-treatment NEW Fibromyalgia MP3 download available from my website :) Fibromyalgia responds well to stress relief and relaxation therapy which is why hypnotherapy is a great tool to use in conjunction with your usual treatment. http://www.kenttherapyclinic.co.uk/mp3-downloads.html Google launches a tool that helps users plan their digital afterlife! The internet search engine leader will be the first company to address the very sensitive issue of data storage, once a person has died or can no longer use their account. Users can now plan for their digital afterlife using Google’s inactive account manager by deciding what happens to their email, Google Plus and other personal data. ‘We’re launching a new feature that makes it easy to tell Google what you want done with your digital assets when you die or can no longer use your account,’ Google said in a blog post. Users can choose to delete their data after three, six or 12 months of inactivity, or choose to pass the data to another person once they have gone.
Besides Gmail and Google Plus, other services covered include YouTube, the photo-sharing service Picasa and Blogger. Have you ever thought you might like the idea of becoming a qualified hypnotherapist or even a psychotherapist? If so, then I can highly recommend a course down in Chatham, Medway. The Kent Institute of Clinical Hypnosis can help you learn all you need to gain a professional diploma qualification.
In just 10 weekends, you could start working for yourself, and have the potential of doing further courses to bring you up to psychotherapist level qualifications. If you fancy having a look into it, have a look at their website. www.kich.co.uk Their April course is about to start this weekend, but they are planning their next course to start in September. I've been pondering the effects of stress on people for a long while. Right throughout my line of work I see more stressed people than you could shake a stick at! Stress is a funny old thing really. We actually need some kinds of stress. Really! We do! You need some stress to get up in the morning, it is critical to feeling motivated and interested in getting on with your life. Like bad stress, good stress, called eustress, also gets the heart pumping, increases your breathing rate, makes you perspire more and causes chemicals reactions through-out your system. The big difference is in the type of chemicals you produce when you are excited and happy - verses being excited and apprehensive or unhappy. When we are in a “good” stress situation, you get a kind of “runners high” type of chemical cocktail. Lovely chemicals like endorphin, serotonin and dopamine are produced by our bodies and do all sorts of good things for our systems. They act almost like antidotes to the bad stress chemicals. Stress management can teach you how to change from the bad to the good type. Ok so, what other kinds of stress are there? Acute stress is the most common form of stress. It comes from demands and pressures of the recent past and anticipated demands and pressures of the near future. Acute stress is thrilling and exciting in small doses, but too much is exhausting. A fast run down a challenging ski slope, for example, is exhilarating early in the day. That same ski run late in the day is taxing and wearing. Skiing beyond your limits can lead to falls and broken bones. By the same token, overdoing on short-term stress can lead to psychological distress, tension headaches, upset stomach, and other symptoms. Fortunately, acute stress symptoms are recognised by most people. It's an accumilated list of what has gone awry in their lives: the car accident, the loss of an important contract, a deadline they're rushing to meet, their child's occasional problems at school, and so on. Because it is short term, acute stress doesn't have enough time to do the extensive damage associated with long-term stress. Episodic Acute Stress. There are those, however, who suffer acute stress frequently, whose lives are so disordered that they are studies in chaos and crisis. They're always in a rush, but always late. If something can go wrong, it does. They take on too much, have too many irons in the fire, and can't organize the slew of self-inflicted demands and pressures clamouring for their attention. They seem perpetually in the clutches of acute stress. It is common for people with acute stress reactions to be over aroused, short-tempered, irritable, anxious, and tense. Often, they describe themselves as having "a lot of nervous energy." Always in a hurry, they tend to be abrupt, and sometimes their irritability comes across as hostility. Interpersonal relationships deteriorate rapidly when others respond with real hostility. The work becomes a very stressful place for them. Chronic stress comes when a person never sees a way out of a miserable situation. It's the stress of unrelenting demands and pressures for seemingly interminable periods of time. With no hope, the individual gives up searching for solutions. Some chronic stresses stem from traumatic, early childhood experiences that become internalised and remain forever painful and present. Some experiences profoundly affect personality. A view of the world, or a belief system, is created that causes unending stress for the individual (e.g., the world is a threatening place, people will find out you are a pretender, you must be perfect at all times). When personality or deep-seated convictions and beliefs must be reformulated, recovery requires active self-examination, often with professional help. The worst aspect of chronic stress is that people get used to it. They forget it's there. People are immediately aware of acute stress because it is new; they ignore chronic stress because it is old, familiar, and sometimes, almost comfortable. Chronic stress kills through suicide, violence, heart attack, stroke, and, perhaps, even cancer. People wear down to a final, fatal breakdown. Because physical and mental resources are depleted through long-term attrition, the symptoms of chronic stress are difficult to treat and may require extended medical as well as behavioural treatment and stress management. So, if you know you’re suffering from stress, why not book an appointment to see me! Together with a range of guided techniques, we can devise strategies which not only reduce your stress levels, but teach you how to create the positive stress in your life – the healthy stress that we all need! Have a look at my website for contact info! www.kenttherapyclinic.co.uk |
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