One of the saddest things for me as a therapist is meeting many clients that hide their real personalities.
Why do people do this? Well, often it's because other people have negatively influenced the way they see themselves! Perhaps an expressive person has grown up with very conservative parents, who've frowned on their extrovert personality. Perhaps they are less academic & more creative than their siblings or peers and that's lead them to feel inadequate in various areas.
Whatever the case we get to the route of the issue using various techniques.
Often we look at various personality profiling tools that enable the client to identify their strengths and in doing so, they suddenly discover that they instantly feel more at ease. Perhaps they're naturally musical but someone told them they'd never be Mozart! When the client can start to allow their true abilities & desires to emerge, they become happier.
A client came to see me not so long ago. They were shy & not very sociable. They wanted to become more outgoing & confident. We ascertained that their other half was demanding this of them. Accusing them of being anti social had weighed heavily on my client for some time.
When we got them to look at their personality profile, we realised that they were a natural creative. Someone sensitive to the world around them & extremely introverted. They were never going to be an extrovert! It wasn't in their genetic or psychological make up.
So we found ways to enable them to feel OK about who they were & to ignore criticism from other people. When my client reslised they no longer had to make excuses or apologise for who they were, they were so much happier! So much more confident too!
Sometimes as well as personality profiling, we can use hypnoanalysis which is like psychoanalysis but a lot faster!
Using the subconscious to gain access to previous outdated ideas or criticisms, we can alter the hold other peoples opinions have now we are adults.
It's always so rewarding to see someone emerge into their true personality after so long of hiding behind false beliefs and behaviours.
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Author Emma Evans
Emma Evans runs Kent Therapy Clinic and also helps coach other therapists in her spare time when she's not seeing clients at her busy practice. This blog is full of useful articles and interesting facts to do with therapy in general. Please feel free to add your comments to the blog.